Mentoring is one of the most effective ways to sustain your own marriage and keep it vibrant and healthy. As a Mentor couple you will be exploring the SmartLoving insights and applying them in your own marriage as you share from the wisdom of your experience. Moreover, you will be providing a valuable service: The many challenges facing couples in this age makes it vital that they be given the tools and support to be successful in marriage from the very beginning.
Some features of SmartLoving Engage Mentoring for you to consider:
- No group presenting skills required; you present the course to one couple at a time.
- 15-20 minute DVD will present the core content of each session, so you can focus on supporting the experience of the engaged couple.
- Flexible schedule; easily reschedule any session should it clash with another engagement
- You decide how many courses to run; mentor as few as one or as many as ten a year.
- No need for babysitters as the sessions are held in your home.
SmartLoving Engaged is a six session, home-based course presented to one engaged couple by a qualified ‘Mentor’ couple. Using DVD to present 20 minutes of content in each session, the role of the Mentor is to flesh out the content with your personal examples and journey with the engaged. The course is designed to be very interactive, so there are several simple exercises for you to facilitate, and then questions to put to the engaged couple to stimulate discussion and further exploration of the topic.
For more information about the Engage curriculum:
Engage course outline of topics: here
Overview of Engage course materials: here
Benefits of Engage mentoring… for the engaged, the mentor, the parish: here
Distinguishing features of Engage: here
Requirements – who can become a mentor?
Mentors should have the following qualities:
1. Married two or more years.
You need to be married at least 2 years, perhaps a little longer if you are in your twenties. If you are married less than this, you can be involved in presenting the course to groups as part of a team until the time is right for you to become active Mentors.
2. Married in the Catholic Church.
You need to be married in the Catholic Church or in a marriage recognised by the Church. SmartLoving Engaged is specifically designed to prepare couples for Catholic marriage. While its insights and many of the tools are applicable to all marriages, the theology is specifically Catholic. It is an important part of the transmission of the course, that the Mentor couple be a living sacramental witness. If you are not sure whether your marriage is recognised by the Church, speak to your parish priest – in many cases it is a simple matter to have your marriage confirmed. He will advise you on your situation.
3. Regular Church goers.
You do not need to both be Catholic, but you do need to have a commitment to regular church attendance and be supportive of Catholic teaching. The course is boldly Catholic and presents the wisdom of the Church on marriage and sexuality as the best possible vision for couples to live the fullness of their potential. Part of the training process will include the opportunity for you to reflect on how comfortable you are with these teachings, which will be explained thoroughly. If you cannot support them wholeheartedly, there will be other ways for you to be involved.
4. Joint Commitment.
You need to see this as a couple commitment. While we appreciate that in most marriages, one spouse is usually more active than the other in the organisation and planning, the course cannot be presented by one spouse only. One of the charisms of SmartLoving is the attention given to sexuality and understanding our gender differences. It really requires both spouses to be involved if this is to be presented fully.
5. Available for a minimum of one course per year.
We like to have every mentor couple run the programme within six months of the training to consolidate the insights. Following that, you can decide in collaboration with your local coordinator how many couples you can manage. You need to mentor at least one couple a year to maintain currency and can take on as many as ten or twenty if you choose.
If you don’t meet all these requirements, you can still be involved in this ministry as a coordinator or supporting our group courses. For more information: Contact us
Training – how to get accredited
Training consists of several parts:
1. SmartLoving Marriage seminar
Begin your training with this private two day retreat for married couples. It will give you the opportunity to refresh your own relationship, as well as introducing you to the main concepts that form the foundation of the SmartLoving Engaged programme. (Couples who have recently attended a Marriage Encounter Weekend can attend the SmartLoving Engaged Training with the view to attending a SmartLoving Marriage seminar at a later time).
SmartLoving Marriage seminar dates and venues: here
Alternatively, you can do the SmartLoving Engaged Course as participants.
2. SmartLoving Engaged Training
This one day course is designed to brief you the structure of the programme, coach you in Mentoring methodology, and get you started on preparing your personal examples which will supplement the content. You leave with a DVD for use in each session, Mentor’s Guide, Couple Pack and other formation material.
SmartLovng Engaged Mentor Training dates: here
3. Coaching by another Mentor
As you begin with your first Engaged couple, you will be coached by another Mentor couple to ensure you feel confident and have someone with whom to debrief. Meet some of our team: here
4. Annual Inservice & Ongoing Support
There will be plenty of opportunities to network with other Mentors and participate in renewal days and conferences run by MRC. We’ll also provide you with materials to promote SmartLoving Engaged in your parish or area. For more information: here
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(ie you’ve done the training or have bought the Mentor kit)