General Overview

Conversation Summary: Laura Kane opened the February 2025 meeting of the Life, Marriage and Family (LMF) Network, where members from various Catholic dioceses and movements across Australia introduced themselves and their roles. The main part of the meeting was a presentation by guest speaker Karen Doyle on the topic of Catholic consent education. Doyle explained the background of the government’s mandate for consent education in all Australian schools, which was sparked by Chanel Contos’s campaign. She outlined the risks and opportunities this presented for the Catholic context, emphasizing a proactive approach grounded in Catholic anthropology and the dignity of the person. She presented her program, “Live Life to the Full,” as a comprehensive solution for schools. The presentation was followed by a question and answer session where members discussed the implications for their respective ministries.

Interviewee Background: Karen Doyle was introduced as the founding director of Choices Media, a major provider of values and faith-based resources for the education sector. She was described as a popular speaker, a specialist in empowering individuals, and the author of several books, including “The Problem with Pornography.” Her professional background began in nursing before she undertook postgraduate studies in marriage and family. For over two decades, she has developed curriculum programs used internationally. Most recently, she developed the “Live Life to the Full” program in response to the Australian federal government’s mandate requiring the teaching of consent in schools.

Key Points

  • Consent education became a mandated topic from Kindergarten to Year 12 in every Australian school due to a national movement started by activist Chanel Contos in 2021.
  • The widespread need for consent education was directly correlated with the pervasive influence of pornography, which Doyle described as the “new sex education curriculum.”
  • For Catholic education, this mandate presented both risks (e.g., premature sexualization of children, consent becoming the sole moral requirement for a sexual act) and significant opportunities (e.g., re-shaping the narrative, re-empowering parents, and presenting a compelling Catholic vision of human flourishing).
  • An effective Catholic approach to consent education must be grounded in the dignity of the human person and Catholic anthropology, actively support parents as primary educators, and include comprehensive formation for school staff.
  • Most Australian states had implemented or were in the process of implementing “affirmative consent” laws, which shifted the legal responsibility to ensure all parties are actively and enthusiastically consenting throughout a sexual act.
  • Doyle’s organization, Choices Media, developed a comprehensive K-12 program called “Live Life to the Full” to provide Catholic schools with a solution that meets government mandates while remaining faithful to Catholic teaching.

Notable Quotes

  • “Oh my gosh, you’re such a sexpert.” (13:12) – Stated in the context of a humorous anecdote about her daughter’s mortification at her line of work, highlighting the awkwardness many feel around the topic.
  • “This approach will no longer work because in Catholic education… a lot of them have had their head in the sand for a long time, not wanting to deal with consent or sexuality in the school. This, however, is not going to work anymore because the government has now mandated compulsory consent education.” (20:39) – Said while explaining that avoidance is no longer a viable strategy for Catholic schools due to the new legal requirements.
  • “And she said to Jonathan with tears in her eyes, ‘Is that normal?'” (33:32) – Recounting a poignant story of a young woman who was forced by her boyfriend to watch and act out hardcore pornography, illustrating the profound confusion and harm caused by pornography’s influence.
  • “Instead of being fearful, I would really encourage everybody to see it as a great opportunity to reengage and to reclaim some of the lost ground that we’ve lost over the last few years in this space of human sexuality and communicating a message that is compelling and attractive for young people.” (40:03) – Stated while encouraging ministry leaders to adopt a positive and proactive stance on teaching consent from a Catholic perspective.

Kicker Quotes

  • “I think we have a huge problem where there’s a lot of permission giving beliefs that are coming from pornography into young people’s relationships and sexual activity, and it’s so far from normal and it’s totally not what boys just do.”
  • “…we need to think of a really creative way to engage young people, not to come across as telling them and dictating, but to gently invite them. And this is very much Jesus’ model. He doesn’t impose, he invites.”

Detailed Insights

  1. Main Arguments:
  • The government mandate for consent education was an unavoidable reality that Catholic institutions must address intelligently and proactively, rather than with fear or avoidance. (20:55)
  • While secular approaches carried risks, a robust Catholic framework provided a superior opportunity to present a compelling vision of human sexuality grounded in dignity, virtue, and human flourishing. (40:03)
  • Pornography was a primary, yet often unacknowledged, driver of the distorted views on sex and consent prevalent among young people, and it must be addressed as the “elephant in the room.” (32:21)
  • A truly effective solution required a comprehensive, “whole school” approach that integrated staff formation, parent engagement resources, and a cohesive K-12 curriculum. (43:22)
  1. Supporting Evidence:
  • Doyle cited the story of Chanel Contos, whose 2021 Instagram post questioning sexual assault experiences led to 6,000 testimonies and a petition with 45,000 signatures, which directly resulted in the government mandating consent education. (29:00)
  • She referenced the implementation of affirmative consent laws in four states and one territory, with others reviewing their laws, as evidence of the shifting legal landscape. (36:24)
  • She used two powerful anecdotes from her husband’s work in schools: one about a father who gave his son pornography to “learn about sex” and another about a teenage girl forced by her boyfriend to act out pornography, to illustrate the real-world impact of these issues. (32:40, 33:10)

Themes and Trends

  1. Recurring Themes:
  • The foundational importance of the dignity of the human person and Catholic anthropology in any discussion of sexuality and consent. (35:47, 41:13)
  • The critical role of parents as the primary educators of their children and the need for the Church and schools to support and re-empower them in this role. (39:35, 41:32, 53:44)
  • The shift from a fearful, reactive posture to seeing the consent education mandate as a positive opportunity for evangelization and formation. (40:03, 46:56)
  • The destructive influence of pornography on young people’s understanding of consent, respect, and healthy relationships. (32:21)
  1. Emerging Trends:
  • The nationwide government mandate for compulsory consent education in all Australian schools from Kindergarten through Year 12. (20:55)
  • The legal shift across Australia toward “affirmative consent” laws, which requires active, ongoing, and mutual communication to establish consent, rather than assuming it exists in the absence of a “no.” (36:03)
  • The increasing challenge of navigating new technologies like AI and deepfakes in the context of consent and sexual exploitation. (49:00)

Context and Background

  1. Contextual Information: The presentation was delivered to the Life, Marriage and Family (LMF) Network, a group of professionals and leaders working in Catholic ministries across Australia. This context shaped the discussion, focusing it on how the topic of consent education intersects with evangelization, marriage preparation, family support, and diocesan policy within the Australian Catholic Church.
  2. Related Events: The primary event referenced was the national movement for consent education sparked by Chanel Contos in 2021. Her social media campaign exposed the widespread nature of sexual assault among young people and directly led to the Australian government’s decision to mandate consent education in the national curriculum. (29:00)
  3. Potential Impact: Karen Doyle’s presentation had the potential to equip and empower the ministry leaders on the call to address the topic of consent with confidence. Her framing of the issue as an “opportunity” rather than a threat could influence diocesan strategies, encouraging a more unified and proactive engagement with the government mandate. It could also lead to greater advocacy for comprehensive, faith-based programs like “Live Life to the Full” within Catholic education offices and parishes.

Follow-Up Questions:

  • How can marriage preparation programs specifically address and integrate the new “affirmative consent” laws in a way that respects both the legal standard and the Catholic understanding of the marital gift of self?
  • What practical strategies can you suggest for parents whose children attend public schools and are receiving secular consent education that may conflict with Catholic values?
  • How does the “Live Life to the Full” program address the complexities of gender ideology that are often intertwined with secular respectful relationships programs?
  • You mentioned the challenge of teachers sourcing unapproved resources from the internet. What are the key red flags that parents and ministry leaders should look for in secular consent materials?
  • Beyond the school curriculum, what are the most effective ways for parishes to become centers for parent formation and support on these sensitive topics?

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